Geoff Norcott writes a touching essay on the loss of a baby girl
Geoff Norcott confided in the death of his daughter, seven years after her stillborn.
The comedian and his wife lost their daughter Connie in July 2014.
In an essay for the Sands charity on stillbirth and neonatal death, Norcott said his wife was 34 weeks pregnant and they were “devastated” to learn that their baby’s heart had stopped beating. .
He said the stillbirth could seem “like a void”.
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The star, 44, said as the anniversary approached this year, he realized he was feeling different than usual, due to the COVID pandemic.
“As the date approached, I knew the signs that my mind was returning to this summer,” he wrote. “The headaches, the abrupt lack of self-esteem, while noticing my wife going through the same and more, given the added burden of the physical trauma suffered by stillbirths women.
“However, for all the familiarity, this year was also different. I suspect there are two reasons. One is that last year the pandemic was so new and all-consuming that the heartbreak was just another thing. that we didn’t have a normal experience of. “
The comedian – who has participated in shows including Make fun of the week and Question time – said that the other thing that had changed was that because a number of years had passed “the entity or the idea of what I am crying changes shape”.
“It’s scary because I don’t have that many benchmarks for this experience,” he said.
“I can guess what she would have been like when she was a baby or even a very small child, but I don’t know what kind of girl she would have been at that age.”
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Norcott – who also has a son, Sebastian, with his wife – said losing a baby this way was especially difficult as it was harder to speculate on what her daughter would be like now.
“As you mourn, the stillbirth can feel like a void,” he continued. “You have to put things in it rather than taking what was already there.”
The star said the loss would always be with him but that he “would love to remember the girl I never had until my last day.”
For more information on Sands, visit https://www.sands.org.uk/.
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